Blogging 101 Exercise

Blogging is all about ‘neighborhood’ connections.

I have had the best time getting to know my fellow bloggers throughout Blogging 101.  Yesterday our exercise was to suss out some new blogs and leave intelligent comments. Or at least a comment beyond “cool”. Today our job is to pick one of those blogs and write a post on why we picked that blog to leave a comment on. Here comes my disclaimer: most of the time I am a happy go lucky person. However, I am fiercely proud of our soldiers (note I said soldiers, not the military complex) and this post is a bit more serious than I usually do.

I am choosing a post from Carryingthegun. You can read it yourself here. I am picking this one for a couple of reasons. One, I have nothing but respect for people who choose to defend our country. I think they go through things most humans have no conception of–I know I don’t. Two, it seemed like a light-hearted post about how veterans view their lives through the lens of their service, and how perhaps that is not always a good thing.

Now, not everyone who enters the military is a good person. Like the rest of the world and careers, there are jerks mixed in decent sorts. So when a jerk comes home from military service, he’s probably still a jerk. That is not really the military’s fault. I think that is a good starting point.

Because what happened in the 325 comments that followed the light-hearted post was a heated discussion of rape and military issues. There are always people who disagree any given point of view. Discussion is always good, especially at this time of year: it keeps the blood heated. But there are also those who skew facts to fit their side of the argument.

One reader was quite insistent on discussing rapists in the army. There are certainly rape issues in the army. It is a rather slow-moving machine when it comes to the idea of “boys club” and change. But I don’t think it is fair to tar every military person with that brush. Before I get yelled at, if you rape someone, you should go to jail. Period. No get out of jail free card, no extenuating circumstances. But for every man from the military who rapes someone, there are thousands more who do not–and who justly condemn the man who did.

This reader used one news article to back up their point of view. And when it was pointed out that it was not 1 in 5 military men coming home that rape someone, but 1 in 5 military sex offenders that don’t register as required, the reader jumped on the offense: accusing the correcting reader as thinking that made it ok to have rape in the military. I have no patience for people on a soapbox when that soapbox is not connected to the original post. Makes me think the reader was simply surfing the web, looking for a place to sound off. Any military site would have done.

I am pleased to say that those commenters who did not get sidetracked by the vitriol (and it really was caustic), had some excellent ideas on why soldiers need to talk about their time abroad and use those experiences to filter everyday life here at home.

“Service where one risked their life to do what they felt was right in the service of their country should never be belittled. Even if the soldier comes back with no physical scars it does not mean they are ever completely whole, again. That needs to be remembered and respected, they and their families gave up months and sometimes years of “normal life” so that the rest of us can sleep soundly at night without fear of a bomb hitting our home as we sleep, or someone coming in with guns to murder us as we sleep because we are different from them. We do not have to fear while walking into a store to shop for groceries that a bomber will follow us in and take our lives or a member of our families lives. We can go about our day-to-day existence in relative peace and security because these people risked their lives for all the people of this country without ever meeting the majority of us”–sacredhandscoven

We need to look outside our perception of why we think soldiers are condescending and maybe listen to their stories. I imagine–and I say imagine, because I would not presume to think I know–that coming home is as much a shock to their systems as arriving at a base overseas was. And maybe worse, because we all think they should be happy to be home and pick up their lives where they left off, as if nothing changed.

I had a nice old man who was a customer at my bank. He had a round-robin of restaurants he went to everyday in town. At first I thought it was because he was simply social. Then one day he said that Uncle Sam had fed him for 30 years. And his wife fed him for 20 more. Now he doesn’t know how to cook and eats out for every meal. And that is a rather benign example. Imagine what the veteran you see every day is going through. Maybe you should ask. Or at least not sneer if they talk about the service that gave you freedom.

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8 thoughts on “Blogging 101 Exercise

  1. Great post! This comment is less about content and more about Accessibility in your blog. When you linked to another blog you linked the word “here”, it read: “You can read it yourself “. Screen readers for the blind have a difficult time picking out links depending on the reader. I would suggest linking a more meaningful phrase that the reader needing accommodation could easily figure out is a link, such as: “I strongly suggest you ” and link the words I placed in . Any phrase can be linked, but successful linking includes taking into consideration that not everyone will see that the word “here” is linked 🙂 Love and Light ❤

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  2. Hmm it seems my comment didn’t place the words I wanted in brackets, I’ll try again… instead of it saying “You can read it yourself (here)” I would suggest linking a more meanngful phrase such as “I strongly suggest you (read her blog)”

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  3. Again, with hitting the nail on the head! I agree. I never served in any branch of military, but have been blessed to have many Veterans as family and friends. I have heard the stories that they ARE willing to share, and have seen the silent suffering in many of them over five+ decades when subjects come up that they cannot bring themselves to share with me even though everyone who meets me finds I have never met a subject I will not discuss if others are willing. As such, I am forced to assume by their silence on these subjects that they are “protecting me” (even beyond their military service) since they know I am an overly empathic, weepy, “cries at TV commercials” type to start with.

    You nailed it perfectly when you said: “Imagine what the veteran you see every day is going through. Maybe you should ask. Or at least not sneer if they talk about the service that gave you freedom.”

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    • Thank you. That “lady” on Don’s site was soooo infuriating. I wanted to have at her, but I know with people like that nothing you say even makes a dent. Beyond that, I have no idea why people don’t support their soldiers. I don’t care if the goverment should/shouldn’t have sent them in wherever it is, the soldiers are the ones who bear the brunt of the results. They shouldn’t have to deal with the brunt at home too.

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      • People like that woman are usually one-track-activists. They pick one single thing that they protest (hers is obviously rape) and they dedicate 100% of their rhetoric, indignation, and anger to ranting and raving over it to the exclusion of all forms of coherent thought and common sense. It does not mean that they are wrong about what they feel needs addressing, just that they do not take the time to see the problem they have chosen from all sides and consider all ramifications. They often find a single point and hammer everyone with it until people hammer back by pointing out flaws in their thinking, or they just give up and stop listening, which simply makes the one-track-activist even more angry.

        I prefer to spread my anger over many different issues: rape, child molesting, drugs and their pushers and their big cartels, GMOs, the formation of an American Oligarchy, climate change and the idiots who claim it is not real, right wing gun nuts, and so many more. That keeps me from sounding like a moron, because with that many irons in my fire, I have to constantly read up on the issues and listen to people much smarter than I, to keep track of it all! 😉

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  4. “the soldiers are the ones who bear the brunt of the results”, yes all the good AND bad decision making by those that sit in ivory towers. This is the reason I support troops, even if I don’t agree with the war. I also suffer PTSD from a hostage situation, so I have a unique perspective of what they go through.

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